Crying Over Potted Plants

Monday I bought a whole lot of beautiful flowers and pepper and tomato plants and potted them.  I was hopeful for spring. Hopeful the warm temps wouldn't let me down. Today I carried all 27 pots into my garage because the forecast calls for frost and cold temps the next few days. I'm sure if the plants could talk they'd tell you how sad they are to have been taken out of their beautifully chosen places and the wonderful sunshine and stuck in a garage. I was certainly a bit sad placing them there.

Monday I mailed a letter to each student in my class checking in on them, sharing stories of my time at home, and letting them know that I missed them and hoped to see them soon. Today ww got news that the school year is "over". Oh, we will see it through til our scheduled end day of May 15th, but it will be with weekly assignments, distance learning, and an occasional video chat. I was certainly (more than) a bit sad hearing this.

In fact, when I read the announcement, I cried. And then, I had to tell my daughter - and she cried (which, of course, meant I cried again). And, though I've never been one to cry over plants (because, why?) I teared up carrying pots into the garage. Because coupled with the sense of loss I was feeling about school, moving all my pots to the garage felt, well, hopeless.

Turns out, sad is my least favorite feeling. So, I started searching for a better focus, and I realized, I wasn't putting the plants in the garage because I'm hopeless ... its actually a move full of hope. 

See, when I use the word hope, I use it to mean "to look forward to with desire and reasonable confidence". I haven't given up hope on spring. I'm still looking forward to it with desire and I still have reasonable confidence that consistently warm temperatures will come. The next few days of cold is simply a display of the fickleness of Missouri ... in fact, a few cold spells as spring starts is, well, part of spring. I'm not giving up my plants, I'm giving them a better chance. A chance to stay a bit warmer so that in a short time they can get back out to their spots and live their best plant lives.

I haven't given up hope on our world getting back to normal either. I still look forward to it with desire and have reasonable confidence that it will happen. Sure, it looks like it's going to take (more than) a bit longer than I'd like to happen, but eventually businesses will reopen, people will leave their home offices to venture back to their work places, and students will fill my classroom again. The next short period of stay at home orders and school closures is simply a display of the fickleness of our world. 

Furthermore, this time of abnormal-ness is a reminder of how important it is that my true hope is not of this world. That my true hope comes from my belief and faith in God and is rooted in the assurances we have from Him. Romans 5:1 "Through Him we have also. obtained access by faith into this grace. in which we stand, and we rejoice in hope of the glory of God."  

So, I'm adjusting my perspective - albeit, forcefully at times - and I'm still hoping.

I'm hoping that I can make the most of this time at home with my husband and my girls.

I'm hoping that my community, and my country, can rebound quickly from this chaos.

I'm hoping that my students will use this time to learn all sorts of things I might not have taught them (and maybe read a little, too).

I'm hoping this time works to build stronger family units across our country and world.

I'm hoping this time of separation drives people to reach out to one another.

I'm hoping that when we get back to normal we remember to be thankful for all the things we took for granted before this time.

And, I'm hoping that through all the chaos, God is glorified by His people and their handling of the situation, and their faith.

Crying over potted plants seems really silly once you realize how much there is to be hopeful for.

Psalms 25:5 "Guide me in Your truth and teach me, for you are God my Savior, and my hope is in you all day long." 

Pray for the Kids

"Mommy," Lydia asked today, "has the school decided that we can go back yet?"

And so I tried to explain, for the 18th time, that it would be awhile before we could go back ... and that by "awhile" I meant at least the month of April ... and that a month is about 30 days, and that "yes, 30 is a lot of tomorrows."

Because she simply doesn't understand. She doesn't understand why we aren't having friends over to play. She doesn't understand why we aren't going to visit neat places. And mostly, she doesn't understand why she can't go to school. "It isn't even summer yet, mom. It's not time for me to be done with preschool."

My momma heart is sad for my daughter. And my teacher heart is sad, and worried, for all my kids.

My girls are "living their best lives" right now - playing outside, enjoying our animals, snacking way too often, playing all the things, getting extra Mom snuggles, watching movies, playing games. They are learning like crazy from home, and because they are little enough for learning to feel like play - they don't even know how much of what we are doing is learning (win win!).

I am blessed, and thankful, to be able to give Lydia pretty much anything she needs right now. But what I can't give her? Her normal back.

I can't walk her to class to hug Mrs. Cindy. She can't swing by the library under the guise of turning in books for me to sneak a hug from our librarians. She can't catch Mrs. Debra and Mrs. Salter in the hall for hugs on her way to class. She can't peek in to Ms. Jen's room to pester her for candy wave at her after school. I can't let her play with her friends at recess. All the stories she has at the end of every day about all her classmates and who did what? I can't recreate those for her right now. And she misses every single bit of it.

She's too smart to be fooled ... she knows it isn't summer. It isn't time for this extra home time and separation. She isn't taking a break to prep for Kindergarten, she's simply missing preschool.

She's 5. And she knows and feels all these things. So what about my school kiddos? My 10 year olds who also know and feel all these things? Who know what they are missing and yet can't quite understand all the parts of it? The kids who are even more socially connected than Lydia? The kids who depend on their friends?

I am all about building the family unit and I am not sad my kiddos who have great families are getting extra family time - that part I'm happy about. I hope they are making extra crafts, playing a few extra video games, figuring out how to get along with siblings, reading with little brothers, brushing little sisters hair, pestering older siblings as only "littles" can .... I hope they are using this time as a recharge and finding creative, fun outlets. I hope they are playing family board games and watching movies together. I hope they are learning how to help cook, do laundry, and all those other things they will never learn in my classroom.

But I know....
I know some of them are missing a safe place.
I know some of them are a bit more hungry.
I know most of them are missing their teachers and the positive adult relationships  (because more positive relationships is  always better).
I know all of them are missing their friends (because even for those who can text, it's not the same).
I know all of them are trying to adjust to a different (or lack of) routine, and adjustments are hard.
I know all of them are struggling to understand this situation.
I know all of them are feeling - and even grieving - a loss of normal.

A majority of our kids are stuck somewhere in the middle of understanding enough of what is going on that you cannot fool them or shelter them and yet not understanding enough to be able to rationalize it all. They may not be able to express their thoughts or feelings. They may not be able to understand their thoughts and feelings. They may just fall apart every time "schoolwork" is mentioned (ahem - Lydia) ... not because of the schoolwork, but because of what it represents and reminds them of.

So, when you're praying for our leaders and our country and our world ... don't forget to pray for our kiddos, too. Pray for their comfort and peace. Pray for their parents to be able to help them and provide them all they need. And pray for a quick return to normal, for their sakes. Because kids, even the quiet ones, feel big, big feelings even during normal times. And times like these? They'll be feeling the biggest ones they know.

The Whole Child

Today my daughter was the smart kid who surprised me with how much she knows as we worked to sound out some words.

But first she was the whiny kid who cried (cried!) "Im tooooo tiiirreeeedd" when I suggested we do some work with letters. 

Today my daughter was an artist who drew a great picture of our family walk through the woods.

But then she became the sloppy (behavioral maybe even...) kid who scribbled all over her second sheet of paper.

Today my daughter was caring and helped her sister climb onto the swing. She was nurturing, showing her kindly how to put a toy together. She shared wonderfully even with a 2 year old who didn't quite understand the game.

But at other moments she was a bit harsh and grumpy. She grabbed a toy from her sisters hands. She yelled "I don't want to play thay way!" and stomped away.

Today my daughter was helpful. She jumped in when I was cleaning and did more than her share.

But later when I asked her to pick up her toys? Well ... you can guess ...

My kiddos humble me constantly - they are, perhaps, my greatest teachers. Today this girl reminded my teacher heart that my daughter isn't the only kid who can feel and therefore act about 8 different ways in one day. All my school kiddos also have different emotions - good days, bad days ... Even good moments, bad moments. By the age of 10 most of my 4th graders emotions are a little more subtle, yet they still need help and a bit of understanding love and grace in their weak moments. They need gentle redirecting. And in the good moments, they need praise!

Most of all, all my kiddos need me to see all of them. They need me to see the "bad" and help them process it. They need me to see the "good" and help them nurture it. They need me to not forget about or lose sight of one part of them when we're working through another part, and they need me to let them know it's okay to have both .... and that sometimes it's okay to take a break, and try better tomorrow. 

The Elder

I try to pray for our leaders all the time, but situations such as our world's current one has me praying extra intentionally for leaders everywhere. From governmental leaders to school leaders, they all need our prayers. Prayers for the wisdom to figure out the right, best things and then make them happen. Today being Sunday had me praying extra hard for church leaders everywhere who are trying to help guide their flocks the best way they can amongst the unknown. 

The Elder

He bows his head in silence

And tries to still the thousand thoughts

All the voices and opinions

That are jarring for their spot

He weighs out all the options

Trying hard to see

Where the line between the many

"Need to do"s might be

Striving to be a leader

Who finds the way that's true

To all the big important beliefs

For himself, but also you

And he understands your doubtings

He realizes all your fears

Of doing not enough or way to much

He's been balancing for years

So he hears out your side of things

And then several people more

He reads the laws, both Gods and man's,

And knows all that he's fighting for

Then he bows his head in silence

Praying for the right words

To share whats been decided

To the flock he helps shepherd

And through the weight of the not knowing

Navigating of waters new

He prays to feel and spread the peace of God

And share the zeal for worship too.

All That Is Gold Doesn't Glitter

Ready or not, for worse or for better, most of us have a bit of extra time on our hands right now. Time with our spouses, time with our children, time with our home, and time with ourselves. As I strove this week to create spring break memories that involved our own back yard (and some borrowed family woods), each other, our home, and lots of play time,  I was reminded of this quote from The Fellowship Of The Ring:

 “All that is gold does not glitter, Not all those who wander are lost; The old that is strong does not wither, Deep roots are not reached by the frost.”

This week, and in the ones to come where I am being blessed with extra time with my girls, I pray that I can help them see the wonderful golden moments that don't always glitter and shine. That I can allow them - and help them - wonder and wander their way to new and exciting findings. That I can remind them of the beauty and strength in our tried and true loves, traditions, and family. And, that I can help cultivate for them, with them, and in them, a deep root system of love and family and God. 

There's nothing glittery about all the mud we've tracked in the house, but we've had many golden moments finding the mud. 

My forest guide has done a lot of wandering but always found the way back to the house (and the amount of a 5 year olds wonders  is real too 😳).

We're loving on each other and making good ole' fashioned family fun memories. 

And the root system? Well, I'd say it's growing stronger by the day.

Designing Joyful Spaces

I am not a decorator by the furthest stretch of the imagination, but I've recently set on a mission to create some peaceful spots around my house. I do not mind that a large portion of our rooms are "kidified" but I needed some adult spaces - some spaces where I can look to refresh myself. Having always loved quotes, I fell in love with this chalkboard. The front view reminds me to hold on to my joy for it comes from the Lord ... And the back reminds me of whatever I decide it needs to ... This week that is to practice patience, because, well, kids. 😉

Being home full time is a mental adjustment I make each summer (and now, for these 3 weeks+). I love my girls and am thankful for extra moments and memories with them, but we all have to adjust to decreased social interaction and a change in routine. Lydia misses school, her friends, and her teacher. Raina is potty training and the girls are learning how to play with each other in this new stage (5 and 2 year olds play somewhat differently....) Apparently, I had forgotten how many messes and dirty dishes can be created in a full day at home. The mud + dogs + kids + outside animals = a constant sweeping of floors. None of it is bad in any way - but it IS a change from our norm. With change and adjustment comes a need for patience and a need for reminders of joy.♥️

Last week we were a bit emotional and floundering. We lacked routine and it wasn't pretty. This week the girls may still rock their pajamas more than usual, but we are finding our joy deeper from the Lord and embracing one another and our extra time. 

Psalm 28:7 - "The Lord is my strength and my shield; My heart trusted in Him, and I am helped; Therefore my heart greatly rejoices, and with my song I will praise Him."

Today

The day was cold and dreary,
Snow came flurrying down,
The fog was thick and freezing,
...It was beautiful anyhow.

The wind was blowing fiercely,
The clouds were full of rain,
Thunder boomed, lightening flashed
...it was beautiful anyway.

The morning came much to early,
Work was tiring and things went wrong,
A busy me rushed here and there,
...it was beautiful all along.

The heater was nice and toasty,
Many smiles warmed my heart,
Laughter was loud and plentiful,
Yes, it was beautiful from the start.

The sun shone through the clouds some,
Enough to make us squint,
Gleaming the promise of warmer days,
Yes, we found the beauty in it.

The morning found us healthy,
Ready to serve another day,
A peaceful me played and enjoyed,
Another beautiful day.

For this is the day the Lord hath made,
Less us be glad and rejoice...
With thanks and hope and gladness,
For beauty is a choice.

Psalms 118:24 - "For this is the day that the Lord hath made, we will rejoice and be glad in it."