Acting On Love

There are lots of reasons people do things.

To gain attention.

To please others.

Moral obligation to do the right thing.

Love.

Fear.

Anger.

Feelings of obligation. 

To please themselves.

To find joy.

To make money.

To gain status.

I'm sure you could add to the list. 

The thing is, most of those reasons we do things ebb and flow. 

We get the attention and status we wanted.

We give up on gaining attention and status.

We tire of trying to please others. 

We get fed up.

Fear and anger fade.

We tire of obligation.

We make money.

We decide money doesn't matter.

Peer pressure steers us. 

The things of the world - the things of our human nature - mold us and push us and shape us change us and force our path.

Unless.

Unless we are choosing to allow ourselves to be shaped by love instead. 

Love keeps us going when we're tired. Love keeps us doing the right thing when the wrong thing would be easier. Love keeps us headed the right direction even when it's unpopular. Love begets patience and beats fear and anger every time. 

Love is the only motivation that doesn't fail us. Love outlasts everything else. 

I think that's why Jesus tells us in John14:15  "If you love Me, keep my commandments." 

Maybe we were raised in the church and our parents expect us there.Maybe our social group are God pleasing people. Maybe we're smart enough to be in awe of God's power. Maybe we are simply trying to find the right thing to do. 

None of those things are bad ...in fact, they are all good. But if we don't also love God, none of those other things will last. 

Active love keeps us being kind to others even when they are hard to be kind to. Active love keeps us getting up and pushing forward when it's be easier not to. Active love keeps us striving to please God even when it's hard.

Love conquerors all ... So let love be your reason behind all of your actions. 

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Quiet Love

I know this world is crazy, but my sister crocheted me a tiny Christmas tree for my desk at school to bring me a little joy, and it is my students most favorite thing to comment on. 

There are embarrassing moments, but a sweet man at church held the door for me so that I could carry my fit throwing 3 year old through it with only a gentle smile and an understanding glint in his eye.

There are a million things to fill out eyes and brains with, but my friend texts me scriptures to dwell on instead. 

My family has their own commitments, yet they are willing to drop or shuffle things to help me, and my daughters, every time. 

My husband works hard all day, but he often makes dinner so I don't have to when he knows my day has been long.

The music teacher at school has a ton going on in this crazy "covid year" of teaching, but she made room in her world to start Lydia on piano lessons. 

 

We all have  800 directions to go and things to do, but my coworkers consistently offer me coffee and a copy of a neat project they found and thought worth sharing. 

There are hardships and bummers, but my Facebook news feed is full of stories of people making "porch drops" of goodies for friends who are quarantined. 

The world may be full of craziness and unsettled times, but it's also full of new ways, and renewed efforts to stay connected. It's full of people taking care of other people. 

So, this Thanksgiving week, I'm extra thankful for all the people just quietly loving on those around them. Even when it feels unnoticed or taken for granted ... It's not. It's difference making. It's powerful. It's building our world up every time. 

 

Water Droplets

I've always loved Rainbows. What's not to love? However, aside from seeing them as a beautiful display of God's wonder and promise, I can't say I've ever given them a ton of thought. 

Until.

Saturday the girls and I were on our way home when we saw the most beautiful rainbow. It's the most vibrant one I remeber seeing and the picture I pulled over to take does not do it justice. 

It was actually a double rainbow - a beautifully vibrant and complete rainbow with a barely visible, larger rainbow above it. The girls sat and just stared at it for as long as I was pulled off the road. And, in true drama fashion, Raina cried when we turned away from it and she couldn't see it anymore, and Lydia had 18billion questions.

And, so, when we got home, we looked up rainbows. 

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I guess I've known for a long time what "made" a rainbow, but somehow, looking at the explanation with Lydia, I noticed something different. 

You see, I've often seen quotes about being a rainbow of hope for people ... Spreading joy, all that. And I want to do that. BUT some days, let's face it, "be a rainbow" may feel like an awfully big task. 

So, here's the good news: I don't actually need to be the rainbow. Instead, I simply need to be the water droplet. 

You see, God's light shines. Regardless of me. Despite me. Inspite of me. But if I can act as a water droplet ... If I can let His light come through me and reflect out in beautiful, eye catching colors ... Well, then maybe I can do my part to help spread the light of God. 

I don't have to be the whole rainbow. I shouldn't even try to be the rainbow. God just needs me to be a water droplet for His light to find. 

Religion and Politics

I have a rule about not posting on overly controversial topics. I think that's still intact after writing this one.

Here's the deal: There is, thankfully, a separation of religion and politics. It's set up that way in the Bible (My. 22:21 - render to Ceaser the things which are Ceaser's and to God the things which are God's) and our country's founding fathers maintained this idea as they wrote the documents that govern our nation. 

I'm also, quite certain, we can be both excellent citizens of God's kingdom AND excellent citizens of our earthly country. Infact, I am quite certain we are expected to be both. 

And so, while I do back the separation of church and state, because my religion impacts every aspect of my life, if also impacts my politics. 

And here's how:

- I pray for our leaders because the Bible let's me know that's what I should do. (1 Timothy 2:1-2) ....but we all know prayer is deeper than words. Prayer is an attitude, a coming to God. And people, we can't pray for someone in authority and then turn around and say terrible, slanderous things about them. It simply doesn't work that way. 

- I respect our leaders because the Bible let's me know that's what I should do. (1 Peter 2:17) Respecting a person does not mean I agree with 100% of decisions made my a person. It doesn't mean I won't stand up against an idea, philosophy, or policy. However, respect does govern the WAY I make that stand. It tempers my words and my tone of voice. It stops me from reposting a meme or a degrading comment. 

- I search for the truth because the Bible let's me know that's what I should do. (Exodus 23:1 "You must not pass along false rumors ...".) There is a "say what I want" mentality in our society that has infiltrated the best of us. Guys. I don't believe it's okay. I should not say merely what I heard, or feel, or even think about another person or situation. I need to spread the truth. Not just the gospel truth, but also the truth about each situation or person I feel the need to all about. So, PLEASE "fact check" me. If I say something, share something, post something, help me make sure I am sharing real information. I do not want to spread lies or gossip or misinformation. 

- I pray about every decision I make because the Bible let's me know that's what I should do. (James 1:5 - If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God...). How to vote? Who to vote for? What to speak up in support of? What to stand against and how to make that stand? Those all have to be prayerfuly made decisions, because I don't have all that wisdom on my own account. 

-I follow God first, because the Bible let's me know that's what I should do. (Acts 5:29, Galatians 1:10). If you ask me what I "am" I will not first think to tell you my political affiliation. I am not, first, a republican, democrat, libertarian, or any other party member. I am, first and foremost, a Christian. And that fact changes the way I look at politics and politicians, talk about politics and politicians, and the lense that I look through when viewing them as well. 

Letting Go

Today - like just about every day - there were approximately 801 interruptions and/or things I needed to take care of. Some of those things got handled today. Some, well ... didn't. 

I am NOT a person who likes to leave things, or people, hanging. Quite the opposite, infact. I prefer my lessons planned out 3 weeks in advanced, my email inbox empty, or at least sorted and saved, and all of my responsibilities filled a day or two early. 

But that doesn't always happen. In fact, in todays current chaos, it happens less than I'd like. 

And that is enough to completely stress out an anti-procrastinator such as myself. 

And, so, I'm working on letting go. Not a lot, and certainly not on letting go of the actual completing of responsibilities - I don't want to go crazy here - but when it comes to those things I truly can't fix or take care of *right now*, I'm working on letting go of the stress and self imposed guilt. 

The "letting go" looks different in each situation. 

-- Usually it looks like sticky notes, reminders, and lists. If I can't deal with it right now, you can bet it's on my to do list, you know, the list with arrows pointing to sublists. That's keeps me organized. If I need to take care of it later, I set an alarm or reminder in my phone ... Because if show and tell is remebered Friday morning as we leave instead of laid out Thurs night, that's harder. Those things keep me going. They are my assurance that "not done yet" doesn't mean "forgotten about".

-- Sometimes, and maybe increasingly much, letting go looks like practiced responses such as: "Yes, that is on my list of things to get to as quickly as possible. Thank you for your patience." This is a way I can remind myself and others it's okay that I am working hard, getting to things, and also get to have a life and priorities.

-- Sometimes, it looks like apologies... "I'm sorry I've wasnt able to for see this problem. Let's think about how we can work around it." This helps me because it takes away the guilt I sometimes impose on myself. Goodness knows I cannot actually foresee all problems that might arise ... And that's actually quite okay.

-- Sometimes it looks like a text "I'm not going to make it by for milk today - can you grab some?" I am so thankful for a husband who gets this and will pick up the milk and maybe cook dinner, too. He, and our extended support system are the reason the girls and I are able to keep going. I'd you don't have a support system ... You've got to get you one. Reach out so I can help you find yours.

-- Sometimes it looks like turning off the TV and reminding myself what I can control and what I can't - how I can impact my piece of the world and hope that spreads but cannot fix "it all". Priorities come into play here. I will gladly pray for the world sproblems - but I have to find the practical and manigible ways that I can work to fix problems I can have a hand in fixing, starting in my own little corner.

-- Frequently, it looks like straight up fails and flops because Im a long way from figuring all the chaos out. It looks like nail biting. It looks like tension headaches. It looks whiny or "snappy". 

-- And, therefore, the letting go always looks like prayer. So. Much. Prayer. To help me let go. To help me find which things I need to prioritize. To find peace with situations I cannot fix. For help withy timing and my speech. Prayer, because letting go isn't a natural thing for me - but handing it over the worry to God is something I can definitely get on board with.